Girls' Nites are Important

Friday was Tammy's b-day and to celebrate, a few girls (and G Money) gathered at Sheryl's new place in HB. It was a chill evening with stolen guacamole* and lots of pizza (some of the best I've had in CA) and a really odd British movie.  I think the best part was the girl talk that ensued amidst the movie, food, drinks, and cake.  I miss having my close girlfriends to talk about stuff such as why we can't find any suitable guys to date.  Or, if I do happen to find someone I fancy, turns out they don't like me.  Of course.   It was reassuring to know that we're all in similar boats and it's not just me...yet alarming because if these phenomenal girls are having dating issues too, I am in deep yogurt.

I can honestly say that I don't try very hard.  I don't go out looking for dates.  I don't know what I am thinking because it's highly unlikely that some handsome dude is randomly going to show up at my door with flowers.  I really would prefer to meet someone though a group I am involved in, or perhaps church, or work, or even school if I decide to get a Masters'.  It's easier to see whether they are psycho in the context of groups and if they play well with others.  The problem is that so far I've had no luck and it makes it more difficult to keep trying.  I joined up with eHarmony a couple years ago and it's been retarded.  First of all, I get tons of communications from people who aren't even within the same state!  How is that supposed to work? One guy was in Michigan and offered to move to be closer... uh, no thanks.  I've gone out on some dates and they've literally turned out to be disasters, but at least with a free dinner.   Last November, I got matched with this guy Andrew in Oceanside.  He really seemed to be a good prospect.  We exchanged several of the 'guided' communications... each time I would respond, he would write back within the hour.  I thought this could really lead somewhere until he stopped responding FOR NO REASON.  Now I just logged in after several months and found that he closed communication with the reason being "other".  So original.

Anyway, it had been awhile since I logged in and I today I had 1659 matches.  That's almost 1700 people who apparently have better options... how can my odds be better by going to a bar where there may be only 30 people?  And why doesn't this website let me purge my matches and start over?  I don't want to be reminded that this many people aren't interested!

There is one bright spot... I had a communication waiting from Jacob in San Bernardino.  Yes, he is from the 909, but he seemed genuine enough and deserved a reply.  We'll see what happens.

I don't mean to sound bitter.  I just always figured that other things in my life would have been more difficult than finding "the one" and I didn't have a contingency plan for this.  I don't even like that phrase because I think that people have more like 4 or 5 "the ones".  It just depends on who finds who first.

*After reading my blog, Sheryl felt extremely guilty and confessed to the theft of the guacamole.  Therefore, she should be absolved of all sins relating to the matter.  Heck, it wasn't even ready made dip which would be much more of a crime!  It was just the seasoning, so she still had to pay for the avocados, tomatoes, and onions and then actually MAKE the dip.  And, did I say it was good??

First impressions are key

Now that Anne's opened her blog up publicly, I can share this hilarious post from her experience with Chemistry.com. I totally feel her pain as I have had my share of creepy matches on eharmony, but none as funny as this. What's scary is that these type of people are really out there and we pay money to be matched with them! Aaargh! Click HERE.

Review your matches for free

A while back I joined that dating website eharmony just because that old man in the commercial PROMISED me that there was someone waiting online to be my perfect match. Wouldn't you be curious to see who that person would be? Especially if it was free? Well I fell for that, but then after they reel you in with the prospect of finding that perfect person, they won't let you reply to any messages until you sign up! So that's when I sold my soul. Each month this black hole of a website steals $29.99 of my hard earned money and in return I get matched with these so called "compatible" guys. Yeah whatever. One guy I met up with had absolutely zero in common with anything that is important to me. Our first (and only) date went something like this: Do you like pets? No. Sports? No. Happy hour? No. Breathing? No. Okay, here's my half of the bill.

Anyway, after a lot of disappointments, I stopped visiting the site, even though they continued to passively rob me of my thirty bucks. I logged on yesterday out of curiousity and found that I have 374 matches! Surely one of those would work out, right? Upon further inspection, about 200 have already closed the match due to either a) something I said in my profile, b) that we live too far apart, or c) the dreaded "other" where they are so embarrassed they won't even tell you why they won't enter into a preliminary discussion with you. But in all honesty, I probably wouldn't like them either. They just beat me to it.

At this point, my Mom would probably say something like "Honey, someone is really missing out on something special. It's their loss." Maybe it's my loss now. Am I just fooling myself?

Perhaps it's my profile picture?